January's the cool kids' turn to pick some resolutions in an attempt to kick start some positive change. I see September as a quieter, yet tad more frenzied time to do the same. All those lists that people consider on January 1st are just as relevant on September 1st. Perhaps because they're not under a microscope as much, they may not be as intimidating...maybe?
So, obviously I'm taking a few steps to "stay on top of my life." (If you don't know the Kids in the Hall already, I beg of you -- check out the video. If you're not into a bit of bloody violence or quirky humor, please, for the love of God, don't click. Oh, and this was a huge part of my adolescence. Explains lots.) For a simpler take on this, I provide you with this hilarious (or, if you're not in the know, ridiculously random and stupid) take...
Yeah. I made that. Ahem.
Back to the point. Given that September is equivalent to January, I thought I'd share a little list of the "resolutions" I've already started working on. Some are relevant to being back at school and having more structured time (which means focusing on using my time more wisely) and others are just good ol' self improvement things.
- Bed by 10pm (on school nights). Dang nabbit, I'm doing this. Depending on the night, falling asleep by 10 is easier than...coming up with an analogy. Other nights, my energy level is higher and I'll force myself to lay down, sans TV/cell phone/any screens whatsoever and read. It's helped me get to the conclusion of the book I've been reading ALL SUMMER, so that in itself is pretty rad. It also makes me far less grumpy come 6am. Um. Generally.
- Getting in some exercise. I'm not taking on the PXButtKickandLiftChallengeXXI or whatever, but I'm hoping that by incorporating variations of cardio/Pilates/yoga/core strengthening, I'll be gaining some much-needed extra energy as well as *hopefully* toning up some of the squishy bits. I've already mentioned it, but Spark People is a great free site that provides a variety of videos at various levels (hello, beginner!) and numerous lengths. I'll probably move on to other sites if these ones aren't cutting it anymore, but for now they're perfect.
I think one of my issues in the past is that when I get it in my head to do something -- anything -- I go gung-ho initially and have a hard time following through at ANY pace. Apparently it's something my father did in areas of his life. When it comes to exercise, I've done this but also burnt out thanks to overdoing it from the start. So, I've started out by doing one medium-length or two shorter videos at a time, breaking a good sweat but leaving myself feeling energized rather than totally zonked. I'll build on.
Oh, and I'm doing this 3-4 days during the week and 1 day on weekends, while keeping track a) the exercise(s) and b) duration of workout on our family calendar, partly for motivation and partly because I have the memory of a...of a...I don't even know what.
- Setting boundaries. This. Is. Hard. I fall into this trend of not leaving school until after 4:30 (our contract says we can leave at 3:30). And it's not like I'm doing anything super important. I'm just fiddling here and there with stuff that can totally wait 'til the next day. So, I'm trying to leave by 4 (and earlier on Fridays, can you imagine...). This helps with the aforementioned exercise goal (fitting in the exercise, a shower, and getting dinner underway before the guys get home) and will help me stay focused during the day on what needs to get done instead of putting stuff off 'til the end of the day.
- "Money money money mooonnnneeyy. MONEY." (That stupid song that's used for "The Apprentice." Gah.) I've mentioned this lately, but I'm going to be paying close attention to my spending, writing down my purchases, analyzing where my cash is flowin' and why, and researching some ways to keep it under tabs.
For those in the balcony seats, let me project: I'M NOT GREAT WITH MONEY. It's tough to admit that, as an otherwise generally responsible adult who thus far HAS been fine with moolah. (And I don't have massive student loans as an excuse like my awesomely-getting-on-top-of-it husband.) But, yeah. We're looking at some pretty big goals as a family and if I don't focus on this area of life, it'll be my fault. Not cool.
Thank goodness for cool, approachable sites like Our Freaking Budget. We also glean some good advice from Dave Ramsey, so you don't have to leave any "Dave Ramsey is a GOD; we got rid of $1 million in debt and now have $1 million in savings thanks to him!" spiels in the comments...unless you want to brag. In which case, go on with your bad self.
Oh, and I'm even considering taking part in one of those "zero spend" challenges. Maybe. We'll see. I'm gonna go cry now.
- Planning meals. This one will help with finances but I'm also highly interested in seeing if meal planning truly does help me a) cut back on food waste, b) save ka-ching at the super and farmers' market, and c) make life easier. I'll check back if it does and let y'all know. And I'm on the hunt for real food cook-ahead and slow-cooker meals. SO hard to find slow-cooker recipes without a can or bottle of something super processed to bring it all together (and undoubtedly make it yummy).
- Simplify, as always. This is kind of a life goal that sits on my shoulder everyday. I'm pretty lucky, though. It's more like the cartoon angel version on the right side rather than the naughty/devilish kid on the left side. So, there's that. But, yeah. PURGE is the name of the game. A lot of our house is looking more and more like "us", and I love that, but we still have storage spaces (and, heck, out-in-the-open spaces like the toy
The thing that sucks for me is that, well, again...I've got my dad's gene of needing the motivation before getting up and DOING something. Takes me forever to finish a project, but once it's done, it's done pretty darn well. So, I can't say on Monday that I'll plan on working on the basement Saturday. I may wake up Saturday feeling motivated to do something else that's equally important. Or play with Hadley all day. Or sit on my tush watching the world whiz by (while the laundry's going...because at least then I'll feel like I did SOMETHING). Whatevs.
But, I think the only way to break this is to just DO. Like, we wouldn't have gotten our recent front porch project completed if Dave hadn't said, "Okay, I'm going to start this." (Once he started, I had to finish, so I didn't want to let his hard work be overshadowed by my laziness.) And, believe me. I did NOT feel like doing it, but when it was done...well, awesomeness ensued.
- Live in the moment. Observing the changes in Hadley. Enjoying the humor that my students pump into random lessons. Looking for moments of simple joy and lucky experiences. Contacting friends to hang out or come over for meals or meet up for coffee. In general, remembering to savor the good and hold onto the bad momentarily.
Hey, look! Seven things in my list. Whatchya know? So, what about you guys? Do you feel like this time of year is a bit like New Year's with its feeling of "let's start this season on a new foot"?
Or are you just psyched for pumpkin spice everything? Really, though. Who can blame you?