Cleaning Your Washing Machine

Donna Reed, I am not.

Apparently.

I'm one of those "I'll do laundry today" people who starts a load, gets distracted by life, then gets back to it a couple of days later. Please tell me I'm not alone.

So, I assumed it was my own laziness that led to THE STANK. You know THE STANK. It's not necessarily a mold/mildew smell, but it's that scent that, should you happen to finish the load without rewashing (SUCH a waste of energy and water, my Lord) and actually wear the clothing, your nose is perma-wrinkled all day. It's a lingering smell that is downright distracting. THE STANK.

Then, I stumbled upon a little tip about washing one's washing machine, particularly if it's an HE. At first, I thought it was a total Danny Tanner move, like cleaning his rubber gloves or vacuuming the vacuum (which I've actually done...doesn't work great). But, then I thought to myself, "Huh. Maybe this would help with THE STANK." See, even after an overnight, THE STANK was seeping in quicker and quicker and getting to be a terrible nuisance.

So, I tried the tip and it worked. Here I am to pass along the wealth.

As with most of my natural cleaning favorites, this tip comes courtesy Clean Mama. Seriously, what doesn't she know how to clean? Her post has great advice depending on the type of washing machine you have, and suggests either chlorine-free bleach or white vinegar. I'm working with a HE top-loader and, of course, used white vinegar.

Yup. Just that easy. And it has worked phenomenally! No more wasting precious resources (water and, of course, the soap!) to re-wash stinky clothes. You can do this monthly or as needed.

Bam!


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Today's Tip - First Edition!

I'm starting a new series that I'm lamely calling "Today's Tip." I'm hoping to share little tips and tricks (or "life hacks" as the kids these days are saying) to make your life just a wee bit simpler. The topics will range from parenting to cleaning to green living to just general time savers...and anything else that pops into my brain.

"Today's Tip" is a super simple way to cut back on waste that'll save you time, money, and one by one, the EARTH!!!

{dramatic pause}

No, really. If you're not already doing this, it's completely worth the tiny amount of time and effort to get on it.

I know, I know. This tip has been around forever. Yet, I know a ton of people who still buy over-priced bottles of water at work or go through the {oomph} effort it takes to lug the &$#%@*$ case of water home from the store. Switching plastic for reusable and filling it with filtered water at home is by far one of the easiest switches we've make, and has made a huge impact on the sheer number of water bottle waste we produce.

I also have seen several news sources cite that there's a possibility of increased cancer risk (particularly for females) caused by drinking water from a plastic bottle that has, say, sat in a hot car (due to the leaching of chemicals into the water). I know that there was a time that I did this -- regularly. I'd rather not take my chances if making such a simple change can possibly help.

Now, we happen to live in a state that now charges a 5-cent fee per bottle (meaning that you can redeem it when you bring back your bottles and cans). But, between the effort of taking back ALL those bottles and cans, and the energy used to recycle that bottle into another (and, by the way, that's not a never-ending process; one day, the plastic will no longer be able to be melted into another item...and where do you think it goes then?), it's still a drain on our time, energy, and environmental resources. And, really, we used to have to bring bottles back at least monthly. Now, it's a couple of times a year (more in the summertime...ahem, beer and hard cider).

The bottle that we happen to use is the Ello flip-top glass bottle (mine is in turquoise; Dave's is in gray). We love the glass since it's completely free of chemicals or leaching, and the silicone provides an extra layer of protection from breakage. Dave bought me a gorgeous glass one awhile back with a wood top and beautiful design, but a student knocked it on our *cushioned* library floor and, oye, what a mess. Still can't believe that tempered glass broke. 

And one open-and-honest caveat: With our particular model, we have to keep an eye on the latch and ensure that the top is properly screwed-on. Totally user error stuff, but I've had the entire contents of my purse completely submerged (a couple of times). So, yeah. Keep that in mind! 

You don't have to get this kind, though. Klean Kanteen provides durable aluminum options that are pretty cool, too. Just be sure that whatever you purchase is at least BPA-free and suits your needs. Some people like buying a larger option to ensure that they'll get the recommended amount of water for the day; others want a smaller, more portable option. It totally doesn't matter. Whatever you get, just be sure that it meets all of your own criteria.

And, remember that the price is a one-time thing vs. a continual cost that adds up over time. We grabbed our bottles at Target, but they were around the $15 mark. It sounds like a lot, but if you estimate a bottle of water is $1 (in our work vending machine it's actually $1.50, but it's far less if you buy in bulk, so let's take the average), you'll be paying it off in about two weeks' time. I kid you not, though: I love having more than one on-hand to bring along (kept in a cooler...or not, doesn't matter) when we hit the road. It's worth its weight in gold since I'm far less likely to grab a beverage along the way.

So, raise your hand if you already have/use your own reusable bottles! What kind do you like? Do you use them for hitting up the gym (not I, says the pig) or for daily use?

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A Star for the Tree

It's the height in hilarity at our house that the second Hadley saw our finally upright tree after his nap (after shouting "Christmas tree!!! Goody, goody!!!"), he insisted that it needed a star on top.

Huh. Yeah. We didn't have one.

As kids, we had our own hilarious time making fun of our omni-drunk angel tree topper (um, she was always crooked, no matter what we did or shoved up her dress to straighten her out). I guess we weren't a star family back then, and I didn't think I was part of a star family now.

It's even more ironic since we're a pretty non-religious group. We feel that we're spiritual and insightful, but don't relate to one specific religion. We're all baptized Catholics, and at times (usually around Christmas), I feel the pull of mass, but all-in-all, we'd like to educate our son about morality more than doctrine. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!)

So, there he was, sweetly demanding a star topper, then again later that night, then again in the morning. After seeing some crappy store versions, I turned to Pinterest (clearly my real religion...that's a joke, guys) to see if I could figure something out.

During my star search, I also heard a sweet story about my grandmother, who would annually cut out a star out of cardboard that came from my grandfather's starched shirts, cover it in tin foil, and cut a hole in it. She'd stick it on top, pull a light up through the hole to let it "shine" and call it a day. Classic, sensible and creative. Apparently, everything my grandmother was.

So, I got to work. I cut a cereal box up to expose the two large sides. After printing off a star shape, I traced it onto each box and cut them out. Then, I creased inside each point for some dimension and glued each side together. (Before it was fully dry, I trimmed it further and pressed it together again.) Finally, I glued an empty toilet paper tube to the back.

You could paint the star, cover it in glue and glitter, or put foil on it. I decided to keep it natural this time. I'm not sure if the best part is the fact that it was totally free, that it appeased the little guy's craving for a star, or that it was a pretty old-school way to handle the issue. And not to mention eco-friendly up the wazoo!

Oh, and while I'm at it, I thought I'd share another tree that has taken up residence at our house. It'll probably be up until Valentine's Day, with how long it took me to finally toss it up.

I just cut out a tree shape from a large piece of green felt, then a textured piece for the trunk and a "skirt" from red. Then, I cut out random shapes, including a little snowman and present, and of course a star for the top. I used Command strips (the poster kinds) on the back and the "ornaments" and such attach without any adhesive (one of the best parts of felt). I've also made a felt board for pretend play as a Christmas gift, a "piece of pie" to add to his collection of fake food, and may make another piece if I find the time before Christmas eve.

Felt = the perfect toddler plaything!

So, what type of tree topper do you use in your family? We've used bows in the past, and even a scarf last year (I'd LOVE to find an old antique top hat with holly berries!), but we're always willing to change if the little guy dictates a better idea.  

One-Ingredient Bathtub Fix

For as long as I can remember, I couldn't find a product to clean all the years of built-up grime from our tub. I scrubbed as much as I could, so I resigned myself to pretend that it was clean enough for us. Y'know. The surface grime was "clean" so the guilt wouldn't overtake me when I threw my 2-year-old in. *gulp* Seeing that written, I feel guiltier and guiltier about that.

Well, since my plumber-extraordinaire stepfather's coming up with ways for us to deal with the horrible bathtub walls, I figured I should make another attempt at scrubbing it. He had suggested a highly toxic solution we've all heard of and a razor blade. Seriously. I'm nothing if not lazy, so I wanted to try something else first.

And it totally worked!

Yup, that's all it took. After wetting the tub, I dumped in the baking soda. (Note that mine's a generic brand. Use the cheapest you can find.) Be sure you toss it everywhere -- sides, especially. You don't need a HUGE amount, but be sure it's thick, especially where any grime is particularly caked.

Allow it to sit. Since I was busy chasing a little one around, I let it sit for about 1-2 hours, but less may work, too.

Then, I got a green scrubby (technical term -- you know the kind, not TOO rough, but enough friction to work) wet and added a little more water as I scrubbed. Most of it got loosened on its own, but the rough spots needed some good scrubbing. This took about 15 minutes, tops, for a HORRIBLE tub. Sorry I didn't have a "before", but I guarantee it's as clean as it could possibly be. LIKE NEW.

I was worried I'd have to break out the white vinegar, too, but it wasn't necessary. If you find that you've scrubbed (or don't feel like scrubbing THAT much), do a wipe-down and rinse again, and throw some more on for another hour or so.

Just know that if you leave it too long, it'll cake on and might be tough to scrape off. All you need is a little water to loosen up the situation and scrub your cares away.

And, now it's time for the hubs and my stepdad to attack the walls. ;-) I have a feeling I had an easier job.

Do you have any cleaning projects that you've been putting off *gulp* years to finally tackle? I can't be the only one...can I?

Green Guy

Hey, guys. Today's post was inspired by my super sweet brother-in-law, Dan, who asked me my opinion on some green brands and products he was considering. Of course, I immediately thought, "Oh, cool! Maybe someone in blogland could use my thoughts, too." So, here we are!

I'm not an expert at any of this stuff. I'm clearly not a dude. (Um. Hopefully you knew that.) But, after reading reviews and doing some research, I'm pretty confident that these are some kickass products. Of course, it should be stated that not all products work the exact same way for everybody. Like, our current shampoo works great for Dave and "eh" for me, but I still think my poo-free days changed my hair's pH and I've lived with straw-like conditions ever since. But I digress.

Today's post is all about the guys. And, because I'm me, it's particularly about the eco-guys. You know who you are. The ones who are looking for ways to eliminate the earth-hurting crud from your daily grooming routine. Who still want to look good (and, ahem, smell yummy) without the tingling chemicals, drying foaming agents, and general nastiness that goes down the drain.

I've got your back. Since I'm unable to try these myself -- do you really have to ask why? -- I've decided to pick a couple of extra products (like two shampoos, etc). Check out the reviews for yourself and consider what will work for your needs. And, ladies, the next time you need a sweet little gift for your sweet, don't do the Axe. Seriously. Just put down the Axe.

1 -  Maple Holistics Sage Shampoo (for Heavy Dandruff), 100% Natural and Sulfate-Free - I selected two shampoos because everyone's head is different, and I thought it would be cool to give you guys some options. I know the bottle is purple and it may look a little feminine, but that's actually because this is a shampoo that could work for both men and women. It's so awesome that there are natural options out there for folks who have dry skin, dandruff, and dermatitis. (Are those all the same things? I don't know. Maybe.) Oh, and it's cool for color-treated hair. That's pretty cool.
2 - Every Man Jack's 2-in-1 Thickening Shampoo - Like I said, everyone's head is different, and some guys are fighting an issue with thinning. I know how much thinning can affect a guy's self esteem, so the fact that this phthalate-free option exists (and with a conditioning option) is awesome. Let's just say that I may ask Santa to bring this to our house this year.
3 - Baxter of California Chrome-Plated Safety Razor - The Dorky Daddy loves his safety razor, although he admits that it does take a time or two to get used to a newer, short-fast strokes method. Seriously, this thing is awesome, and you'll only need to buy the individual razor blades once in awhile. (Hint: If you dry off your razor well every time you use it, you'll hardly need to buy new ones.) Plus, if you buy one package of blades, they'll last FUH-RE-VER. Just try it. Oh, and this (along with a kit of the proper brush, a holder, and some soap in a cute bowl or mug) was his all-time favorite Christmas present. I kid you not.
4 - ManCave Natural Face Moisturizer - No parabens. No sulfates. No synthetic fragrances or dyes. No petrochemicals. No GMOs. No cruelty. No problem! Plus, it comes in super manly packaging. These companies are really catching on to what people want. Oh, and it helps firm your skin (thanks, caffeine), clear it up if you've got a bit of acne (thanks, borage oil), and has several anti-aging agents. Wonder if I could get away with using this...
5 - Kiss My Face Creamy Cleanser Clean for a Day - I wouldn't usually support a face cleanser, mostly because everyone's face is very much unique. As a teen, I had battles with moderate acne (wasn't that bad, but it tore my self esteem to shreds enough to matter), so I know something that works for one person won't work for another. However, the reviews were good enough for this one that I feel confident saying that maybe 8 out of 10 people will have success with this one. It's great for sensitive skin, has a light citrus scent that could work for ladies or gents, and full of everything we like and has NOTHING we don't like (vegan-friendly, not animal tested, etc etc)...yeah, I think I WILL be ordering this one myself.
6 - Moon Dance Soaps Refreshing Mint Lathering Shave Soap - This will work perfectly with #3 above! The reason I picked a mint soap is because it's such a refreshing scent that leaves your skin feeling tight and gives you a morning aromatherapy session that will rival your cup o' joe. I also hit up Etsy every year to put a different scent in the bottom of someone's stocking. It's always great to support a small business owner who supports the philosophies we live by. 
7 - Herban Cowboy Dusk Cologne - (How cute is that name?!) Here's some more super sexy packaging containing an even better product. It's another vegan product, produced completely in the US, and the Herban Cowboy series of products seem worth checking out. (Especially their deodorant, which people are saying "actually works for a truly stinky man." Good to know.) ***Please make sure that you purchase the true brand of this since, apparently, there are knock-offs going around. Since this made the below list, which means a lot to me, I'm still supporting it, but some of the online reviews are warning against some sellers.***
8 - Burt's Bees Cologne - If PETA thinks these colognes are great, I've gotta get behind that. We're a Burt's Bees family, so I decided to include this cologne because a) it's a natural, animal-friendly option and b) it seems to be a completely different scent from #7. It is TOUGH to buy a cologne online, so I should mention that most reviewers love it, although there are one or two that find it a bit too...shall we say...hippie-ish. But, if your guy's into that, awesome. That said, plenty of reviewers mention citrusy, Bergamot, Cyprus and Fir notes (which sounds pretty woodsy and manly to me).  


Do you have any earth-friendly products that you or your guy enjoy? Are you fans of a particular brand? Tell us all about it in the comments!

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Anti Clorox Wipes

In a house full of cats and an active toddler around, messes are inevitable. Namely, messes of the bodily function variety.

That's right. Cat pee and potty training smears.

It happens. Daily. Gross, but it's kind of a moot point when you're in love with those little rascals.

So, when we recently ran out of my OCD-ish husband's favorite clean-up tool, disposable Clorox wipes, I found myself hesitant to buy some more. I knew full well that it was contributing to an eco-hater status, which I cringed over every time we wiped a potty seat. Plus, the nasty chemical makeup of the wipes bummed me out.

Of course, I did what every mother does when faced with a dilemma: I took to Pinterest.

There actually wasn't as much as I thought I'd find, but I really only needed to find one great pin. And I found an awesome resource for you guys at Live Renewed. You've got not one but TWO recipes for a natural disinfectant.

I decided to take her Castile soap (ahem, I hope you all know we mean Dr. Bronner's when we say that, right?) and tea tree essential oil recipe and run with it, mainly because I had all the ingredients on hand.

Side note: My essential oil experience has been a fun experiment that's working out quite well so far, and I still haven't ordered my replacement lemon (and any new ones I'd like to try out, so any suggestions for new "flavors" would be welcome in the comments!), which is why I didn't try the other recipe. I'm loving the quality and non-pressure system that Native American Nutritionals has in place compared to others.

Anyhoo, back to the wipes. Here's how I put this shebang together:

 
For the reusable wipes, I just cut up a couple of (*cough* too small *cough) soft old T-shirts, which gave me...like...maybe 16-20 wipes per shirt, depending on how big you make your wipes. You can also use old cloth napkins (I cut up a few of those for the days I'm out of T-shirt rags) or your husband's old boxers or whatever. Just check first. Let's just say I'm waiting for mine to give up on a couple of crappy white tees to sacrifice for the cause. I'm not sure if color really matters or not; it's not like I care whether they get stained since they're rags, but I'll be sure to update you if the color runs. (That said, if you have something white to cut up or use, um, choose that. Probably best.)

Here's the stuff I mixed up. Per her recipe, I used about 10 drops of tea tree oil (which actually SMELLS like it's disinfecting, I kid you not! Like Lysol, but natural!), two tablespoons of Dr. Bronner's, and a cup of water. I ended up splashing a little more water in to moisten all the wipes, but I think it's because I put the solution on the bottom of the container instead of pouring it over the top.

Doubt that this stuff works as well as Clorox? Behold...doesn't this look all disinfecty? If that were a word, of course...

Right?? So, I put the solution at the bottom of my empty, de-labeled and washed Clorox container...

Sexy. Anyhoo, this is the point that I cut up my reusable wipes. I wadded them together, kind of in a roll, and pulled them up in the middle (I didn't end up using the old white napkins on the outside since there wasn't room in the tube)...

Don't overthink it. Just shove it in and pull in the middle. It works. Okay, this is probably the point I should have poured the solution over everything, but I had already put it in the bottom hoping that it would seep upward. I'm sure it probably would have seeped just fine, but I'm an impatient mama and love to see results. So, I splashed a bit more water on the top and shook the thing. Here's our final product:

Yup, I grabbed a marker and labeled it with a cheeky description. It also has the recipe in small lettering on the other side, just in case my husband feels like whipping some up next time, or in case my incredibly shoddy memory fails me. Again.

I'm keeping them where we kept our old wipes, under our bathroom sink. It's where we dump Hadman's potty and where they get used most frequently. This also happens to be where our laundry hamper lives, so it's perfect. If I think it's gross to toss these in with the laundry, I'll grab our old wet bag from cloth diapering days and keep them in there 'til all the rags and linens need to be washed. No big deal.

Whatchya think? Would you try reusable wipes, or are you addicted to your current method of disinfecting? No judging here.


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Lemony Goodness

Apparently lemons are my thing lately. I'm hoping to make a lemon cake for Hadman's birthday this weekend. But today's not about recipes. It's about essential oils.

I've had my starter kit for a couple of weeks now, and I'm discovering the awesomeness of each kind s-l-o-w-l-y. As a problem strikes, I turn to Google to see which oil will help me out. It's been fun to learn about these all in a hands-on way. And it's kinda funny to see how excited, amazed and clueless Dave is about these little viles of magic. I'll never forget the first time he set eyes on them and said, "Aww! I'm so sorry they're so small. Is there a bigger size to buy?" Sure, 15 mL is a small container, but for the most part you're only using a few drops to maybe 10-20 in one use. So, they actually last quite well.

So, while I've been using lavender on my pillow (Dave says it's the best sleep ever), an "arthritis" blend for my achy knees (I'm not old, really), tea tree on my feet when I feel like I'm coming down with a summer cold, and peppermint to chase away an upset stomach, I thought I'd share my current FAVORITE use for essential oils. By far the best.

See, while I'm not a laundry hater, and I stay on top of it pretty well, I have a tendency to get that smell goin' on with it. You know the one. The I-forgot-the-load-and-left-it-in-too-long-on-a-humid-day musty smell that, if you wear the clothes, follows you all day.

I'm the queen of that smell, it seems. Am I the only one?

Well, the only EO that I've decided to relocate out of the handy carrying case is the lemon -- next to the washer. It's going to stay there until it's empty...then I'm getting more to repeat the process!

There are two ways that I use the stuff. I've come to add it automatically (10 drops, give or take, depending on the size of the load) to the washing detergent before dumping it into the washing machine. If I don't get to the clean-but-wet load in a day or so, I haven't noticed that musty smell AT ALL.

Then, if the load has been in the dryer and is displaying any not-nice smell, I put about 10 drops on a washcloth (it can stain, so make sure it's an old cloth or one you're okay with staining; this hasn't happened for me, but you never know), toss it in, and run it until everything's dry (or run it for awhile to "fluff" the load). If it doesn't take it away completely, repeat the process. It shouldn't take more than two "fluffs" to rid the clothes of the smell.

The reason that the lemon EO is so ideal for laundry use is its disinfectant qualities. (It can also be used in other cleaning applications, too.) See? The stuff ain't just for aromatherapy! I've found a couple of links (like this one - alternative to disinfectant hand gel?! - and this one) that give you far more information than I currently can on other incredible uses for this lemony goodness.

Does anyone have an EO uses that they can't live without to share? I'd love to pick your brain!

By the way, I'm not a seller of any essential oils, so these opinions are just to help out anyone interested in the benefits of EOs, no strings attached. :-)     

Digging In

So, the day that I shared this garden plan with you, I happened to be busy at work lugging picking up supplies, prepping the soil, and planting the darn thing. While I still have some more outdoor chores to tackle (*ahem*flowerbeds*ahem*), I'm ecstatic to have this checked off the list. After all, it can't grow until it's in the ground...or, in this case, the raised beds.

The drawing I showed you Monday, of course, got changed a little bit. As with all things, life seems subject to availability, doesn't it? So, I grabbed 8 (9, although I didn't end up using the last one; will keep it for next year) bags of organic dirt and some peat moss (as my mother calls it "poor man's fertilizer" -- although I always assumed that'd be manure), then headed out to get plants.

First, I ventured to a local joint, T&J's, to see what they had. I got a handful of marigolds (wish I'd gotten a second tray, but whatevs) and two types of lettuce, then headed to Lowe's. I would've hit up a couple of other local places, but I was on a time crunch and trying to avoid Memorial Day parades, so this was my last stop. This is where I had to hit the brakes on a couple of the veggies we were hoping for.

So, due to lack of supply, we cut out the peas (we were late planting those, anyway) and added a couple of squash plants and cucumbers (my husband's new favorite water flavoring). I grabbed six bell pepper plants rather than, um, a ton (two red, two yellow, two green...like a stoplight) and juggled around the arrangements a bit. I also didn't get any potatoes, but since those wouldn't be ready until the fall I'm still considering them.

Here's a pictorial play-by-play of how it all went down. (And feel free to use my example as a guide, but remember that I'm a trial and error type of gardener, so don't blame me if something goes wrong!)If you already have raised beds, weed 'em. If not, build 'em. (This is the closest to how we did ours, although in hind sight we would have build them taller. Ya live, ya learn.) Yup, those are weeds, not veggies...

Then, rough up the bed and spread that dirt. We add a few bags every year to each bed; this year, we added FOUR bags each.

Oh, and that peat moss. Mix that in.

Sexy Band-Aid, lady.

 

Then, I like to take the plants out of their containers (unless they're biodegradable) and place them where I may like them in the beds. This way, I can move them around and adjust accordingly BEFORE they're in the ground. I also try to take into account what the packaging/tags say regarding distance from other plants and so forth.  

Then, dig your spot, plunk the plant in, and cover that business with dirt. I gently tamp it to ensure that any larger stalks are able to stand straight. It's really pretty self-explanatory and simple.

Pretty cool, huh? So, in each of the four corners, I planted three different types of jalapenos. (Must say with inappropriate accent.) In the middles I planted four marigolds, but kind of wish I'd doubled up on both types of plants to evade cat and bug attacks.

Since the back bed is full sun (but still gets less of that super hot afternoon sunshine with a fence and tall bush/tree thingies behind it), I planted my romaine and "mixed" salad greens on the left, a cucumber in the middle, and two tomato plants (which will take over the planet if given the chance) on the right.

In the front, I planted the three types of sweet bell peppers on the left, some carrot seeds in the middle (hence lookin' all empty), and the two squash plants on the right. And, in all honesty, I thought I was grabbing a squash and a zucchini, so this pissed me off royally.

I'll be sure to provide some updates (weekly? Bi-weekly? Monthly? Does anyone caaaaare?? ;-)) to let you know a) how it's growin' (see what I did there?) and b) if the neighborhood cats win the battle. You know what I'm saying, right?

Right??

Oh, and it's SO silly easy to plant plants that, of course, we made a video. I mean, how could you not?

Moderately Green

Am I the only 32-year-old who's still trying to find her identity in a super awkward way? I hope that my son can see me as a fun, silly, intelligent, independent, take-no-guff sort of woman. He may be young enough still to naively see that, but I'm scared that he's going to see me as the un-hot mess that I feel I truly portray on a daily basis...any day now.

Just puttin' that out there. Am I alone? Maybe. And that's okay.

To add to the un-hot messiness and my lack of real identity -- I don't identify as a librarian (although that's technically what I am, in a school setting), I don't identify as a 30-something most of the time (I'm still 12, right? Or am I 80?), I don't identify with a million other things; I only truly identify as a wife and mother -- I'm green. Er, well, I try to be green. I try as much as my oft-zapped energy will allow. And life sometimes gets in the way of that.
Thing is, seeing the levels of "green"-ness out there, it's easy to deal with the dreaded green guilt. Actually, this happens in most areas of life these days -- competition. It's mostly a female thing, it gets greater and greater when you become a mom (WHY IS THAT?! As Arrested Development's Gob would say, "C'MON!!!"), and it can get overwhelming. Soccer moms. Urban moms. Christian moms. Heck, doggie moms.

"I did *such and such*."

"Oh, yeah? Well, I did *a such and such deemed greater thing*." {Thinks to self, "I'm the best."}

It's a thing, and it sucks.

It's not always stated openly this way, but just seeing blogs and Pinteresty ideas and such things, it's hard not to get dragged down that you're not doing enough.

Like...for instance...I've failed at some of the things that a green mama might use to generally identify herself as a green mama. Our diapering situation never took a turn for the cloth. It just didn't. I used them a bit, but it never stuck. (We have used eco-friendly dipes all through, but still, I'd have preferred cloth.) Next time around, we'll do them, I swear. But it just didn't happen this time.

Baby wearing never stuck, either. Or baby led weaning. Or co-sleeping. Or probably 30 other things that the cool kids are doing. They just didn't work for us.

I try not to feel badly about it, and I'm really learning how to not feel "Less" anymore. This really is a HUGE thing for me in every aspect of life. I've had self esteem issues f-o-r-e-v-e-r, and saying "I'm sorry!" for everything has become the norm. So, I'm working on apologizing less, taking responsibility only for myself, and not letting the judgments make me feel -- you got it -- Less than anyone else. That's capitalized for good reason, by the way.  

Which is why I love contributing to Green Child Magazine. It never feels like work. I'm able to learn about topics that are directly important to me, and can often write the pieces pretty quickly out of sheer excitement. Currently, it's an unpaid gig, but that's fine to me. I'm "meeting" (virtually...do we still use that term, virtual?) some incredibly genuine, dedicated, talented, kind women in the process, and what's better than that? No, really. What's better? Good people are hard to find.
I mean, what's better than this article (written awhile back, but still one of my faves), which pretty much sums up the fact that NO ONE'S doing it perfectly. No one's living the "greenest" life. Whatever we're doing...it's good enough, until we decide to do more. At least we're doing SOMETHING.

So, I'm happy with the things I do. Which, come to think of it, are plenty.

I've chatted with y'all about green guilt before. A few times, actually. But, it's always good to return, especially now that I'm a mama...and green mamas be some of the coolest (yet competitive) ladies on earth. I'm trying just to be "enough" in my own book, and the best I can be for my family and the future of the planet.

Now, off to research essential oils. ;-)

Garden Drawing

It was a casual Saturday afternoon while the baby slept and it rained depressingly cold outside. I was sick of the immobility of winter, the constant laziness, so I picked up a pad and pen and insisted, "What do you want to eat this summer?"

Pulling poor Dave from his own restful thoughts, he gave me a list. "Well, tomatoes. We don't really eat cucumbers. Maybe peppers?" Before too long, I jotted down the items we'd be growing. On the top of the page, I drew two rectangles -- the main event (raised garden beds) -- and a few smaller circles -- potted plants to be located at a later date. Maybe near our garage, maybe one our deck.

This is what we came up with...

Hard to look at a bit, I know. Sorry! The asterisks are for marigolds or oregano (funny, we don't each much oregano)...or maybe thyme, which are all good for keeping pests at bay and adding nutrients for the other plants. Oh, and pretty. They're pretty. The jalapenos are for eatin' but also to keep pests (namely, the neighborhood kitties) away. The numbers of the other plants are up for debate, but they're a good starting point. The bell peppers are so "plentiful" because I'm hoping to have a few kinds.

Oh, and I'm also thinking of putting up some sort of short fencing to keep things looking orderly (and, yes, keep pests at bay).  

Last year, we tried to grow all of our raised bed plants and herbs from seed with middling success. (We also had a couple of hand-me-down tomato plants that took over our front porch.) If I had the space/capability of starting my seeds indoor without risk of cat interference, I'd be all over it. But, a few years ago (we're talking pre-Jasper), Winston took matters into his own hands...and we remain a "let's just buy the plants" family. Maybe some day.

I think half the battle when gardening (whether your gardens are massive fields of food or a tiny container set-up) is admitting your boundaries. Don't over-buy, but don't underestimate how much you can grow in a small area. Bringing this sketch along will help me to remember approximately what will fit where. It's all in the planning.

While sketching, I also brought up a chart similar to this one on my phone to determine what plants work well together. This way, I knew that carrots and tomatoes could be in the same bed without fighting each other off. I also took into consideration that the tomatoes like to take things over, and since they're a high-growing plant I put them in the back so that the carrots will *hopefully* still get enough sun. I'm also going to try to be obsessive about caging them this year. Good stuff to think about.

So, as I write this, I'm anxious to get my hands dirty. In Upstate NY, it's wise to wait until the end of May to plant anything (frost abound), and I'm jealous of folks I know who have already been out working. We've had some crazy arse weekends that have left us with minimal time and/or energy to get much done. I mean, dude, I haven't even weeded yet. It's jungle city over here.

I'll keep you posted on our garden journeys (anyone ever hear that phrase before? Our local news station has a segment called "garden journeys" and I always wonder if that's a "thing" or if they pulled it out of their you-know-whats), and do tell -- what are you growing this year? Anything?  

Partying Simply

Last Wednesday, I revealed my plans for Hadley's second birthday party (which will be in July). Can you tell I'm a tad excited about it??

While I was typing up that post, I thought about all the things that we do to try to keep the festivities eco-friendly. Mind you, in all things green, I think we've plateaued at a nice medium kelly green; not mint green (not at all eco-friendly) but not even bordering on dark moss (practically living in the woods). It's a place we're comfortable being. Our efforts are still there and have become a habitual part of our lives, but we don't sweat it if we have to use a paper towel once in awhile. Y'know?

So, that said, I thought I'd share a few of the *simple* tricks and tools we use to keep a birthday shindig more about the monkey and less about the ozone.

- Reuse, reuse, reuse. I don't expect every guest not to use wrapping paper, but if I can, I recycle it. (I WILL love you forever if you bring a gift bag. That's almost all I use anymore. Perfect for reusing!) Our decorations this year will also utilize the poufs I hung around last year (if they've survived), probably along with a handful more that I'll make new. The sign for "Hadley's Party" I made last year will be tapped into the front lawn again, too. So, any decorations you make or buy, consider whether they'll have a future purpose, or can at least be recycled (hello, crepe paper!) when you're done. I'm also going to hit up the thrift shops to see if they have any yellow or blue curtains or sheets to use as tablecloths (may or may not work, but we could use them in the future, too!) Heck, I even saved the party hats I bought last year. I'm turning into a grandmother from the Depression, I swear.

- NO BALLOONS ALLOWED. Again, I don't expect everyone to follow this rule, but as far as my decorating goes...nada. Hence the poufs. Those things are SO scary to me. I don't want them near my kid (choking hazard) or in the landfill (SO VERY BAD for animals, you guys!!!). If someone gifts one (usually the Mylar kind in the shape of something), it's fine, but I am a hawk about watching Hadley with it. Plus, I take it out ONLY when I can watch him, then put it in MY bedroom closet. Seriously. It's Fort Knox up in here.

- Use whatchya got. This goes hand-in-hand with reusing decorations. With the ducky theme this year, we've got a handful of rubber duckies (although I'll probably have to get a handful more, admittedly) at home to use for decoration. I also have a mini red wagon (which Hadley, like, never fit in) that would be awesomesauce on a table with some hay or raffia in it. Oh, and I'll peruse his toys to see if anything else goes with the theme.

- Invites. Okay, this is a tricky one. If your family's a super hip one full of folks who are tech-savvy, good for you. No, really, that's awesome! But my family has some, shall we say, old school folks (again, not a bad thing!) who don't spend much time perusing the ol' interwebs. Thus, I make invitations. How do I keep it relatively low waste? I invite fewer people. Tricky of me, huh? Honestly, less people also equals less waste; makes sense, huh? Oh, and believe me, we DO invite the folks who mean the most to us, so no one's missing out here. We're just not inviting everyone we ever met. We didn't do it for our wedding, we're not doing it for our son's second birthday party. ;-)

- Cups and flatware and plates, oh my! Some folks might suggest to use reusable (or "real") plates/silverware/glasses/etc. Believe me, it crossed my mind last year, but I also fall victim of the a) that's gonna take awhile to clean and b) people are raising an eyebrow at me...AGAIN complexes. Instead, I only get the items that I know we'll need (no bowls if there's nothing soup-like or ice creamy), and I try my best to get the compostable stuff. Of course, last year I only found a couple of compostable kinds of flatware, so had to supplement with other plastic ones (grr), so this year will probably consist of using all that up. Again...don't sweat the small stuff, just do your best. Just know that there are more eco-friendly options out there.

- Simplify your theme. You could also avoid a theme altogether, but I'm a nut for a good theme. Goodness knows how long I can get away with one! So, this year's ducky theme will lead into an awesome homemade Sesame Street theme next year (reusing the colorful decorations, duckies, and Hadley's plush toys instead of buying a bunch of trademarked stuff). Simple is best.

- Actually, simplify, in general. This isn't one that we've succeeded with as far as friends and family purchasing gifts entails. As Hadman gets bigger, we'll talk with him about what he really wants and other ways we could ask people to spend their money in honor of his birthday, but at this age I don't want it to seem forced. So, we accept graciously (and sometimes have to return doubles or the things we simply haven't the space for). However, Dave and I try to keep it minimal and put tons of thought into what he's getting based on his interests and what concepts we'd like for him to learn.   

So, here were just a few easy ideas to hopefully help you consider the environment whilst partying it up. There are already a few great resources on the web (like this and this and this) to help you in this arena, so I'm clearly not reinventing the wheel here. Just wanted to let you know what I prioritize in my mind so I'm not ultimately overwhelmed by all the craziness that birthday planning could possibly turn into.
    

Minimalist Mama

Similar to my zero-waste and French child rearing posts of yore, I've found a new inspiring (or frustrating, depending on how you look at it) concept in the cause of living simpler - the minimalist mom. Spoiler alert: I'm pretty sure it's not something we're going to adhere to, but stick with me here.

I saw this article on the Today Show's website which, in essence, talks about a British family who, after the mum lost her job and got slammed with the holiday marketing blitz, vowed to strike out against consumerism by not spending ANYTHING on their son (and now daughter -- yes, having a newborn and buying NOTHING for her). This is, of course, aside from any medical costs and food (although she doesn't buy into the "food marketed specifically to kids" thing). And, after a year, they're deeming it a success, and even continuing the project (with a monthly "get out of jail free" card).

After checking out the mom's blog, I get it. The fact that her "rules" on the site go as such --

1) Mama don’t preach. This isn’t about telling anyone else what to do. If you’ve read my blog before, even a couple of times, it should be pretty obvious that I DON’T KNOW. I have no answers. Just a few jumbled ideas and a wobbly will to try to do the best thing I can for the kids. Most of the time. When humanly possible. On good days.
2) Liberation not deprivation. If it turns out that any of us (Johnny, Frida, my husband, me) are less happy, more stressed, less healthy, or just generally flourishing less (wilting?) due to cutting out spending in any area, we’ll reintroduce that thing. This isn’t about being stoic, or even doing without. It’s about blundering messily but happily towards a way of life that makes us happy and content.
3) Honesty is the best policy. I will be honest. I’ll always tell you what’s going on. No sneaking purchases past this blog. Hand on heart.

-- is refreshing and lovely. She doesn't seem to be doing this to jump on the "a year doing *fill in the blank* to get tons of press" bandwagon. She genuinely knows how toxic it can be (figuratively) to have to deal with the constant onslaught of C-R-A-P as parents (and children). I mean, just look at this video:

Adorbs! Doesn't that just say it all?

Ahh. Stuff. That recurring theme of ye olde blog. I mean, just think of the influx (dare I say FLOOD) of toys (this isn't including outfits) we received for Hadman's birthday. Cuh-razy! (We've got a buttload more since Christmas, mind you. Le sigh.)

We're of the mindset that if folks would just give ONE toy (and maybe one outfit, if they get "the itch") for these special occasions, it'll make everyone a lot more comfortable (my mother's officially "scared" to get him ANY toys, and it's not because of me...simply put, it makes me super sad) and help Hadley to realize that it's more about showering him with love and kindness and appreciation and to let him know he has true worth. No one is allowed to "buy" his love, as far as I'm concerned, and we're going to have plenty of family conversations with him about it as time goes by. Y'know, when he starts to understand things better.

We also don't buy into (ha! Get it?) the "toy of the season" mentality. There's nothing he "has" to have. Not the latest Elmo thingamabobber. Not everything-Sesame-Street-because-he-likes-Sesame-Street. (Although the Easter Bunny has mentioned wanting to bring one SS-themed toy. Darn him.) Lord knows munchkin HAS more than enough already. If you took the sheer number of toys, he's reached his life quota. Seriously, that many. And he's not 2 yet.

Stop the insanity! (Remember that? From the '90s? Er...'80s, maybe? Susan Powter?)

The items that we get him tend to be creative or pretend toys that will hopefully stick around for years and years of use. Other toys that he has make him feel overwhelmed and bored SO. QUICKLY. Can you imagine? Having two huge containers of toys, literally overflowing, and feeling bored? I can imagine it. Because I see it. (Heck, when I look at all of his toys, I think, "Um, yeah. I'm going cross-eyed. Too much.") It makes complete sense.

We want him to have an imagination...and to use it. To play WITH him using OUR imaginations; inside, outside, with pots and pans and bowls and spoons, with sheets and boxes and recycled egg cartons. What greater gift is there than that? My best childhood memories are of just these things.
And there's also SO much to be said for "free play." You know, going to a park or running around your backyard like a giggling fool or digging in the dirt or...well, you know.
So, let's meander back to the topic at hand. Could we go a year without buying ANYTHING child-oriented?

It definitely got the ol' brain juices flowing. I buy him Annie's bunnies (but I eat them, too, and they're not necessarily kid-centric...just cutesy), but I also buy the whole milk yogurt that's perfectly portioned for toddlers (I swore I'd never do it, but saving 5-7 minutes in the morning? Psht.) I don't buy a lot of clothes or toys for him (family hooks us up on this front, mostly), but we have failed at cloth diapering. (Sad to even admit that.) So, purchasing dipes 'n wipes is a big one on the list.

Clearly, we couldn't fully go without getting him ANYthing...plus, I'm too spineless/lazy/imperfect/flip-floppy to do one of those "for a year" challenge thingies. Hey, at least I'm honest. *wink, wink*

However, there's a lot that I (or we, if you find it appealing) can learn from this experiment. I haven't utilized Freecycle much...er...at all. Ever. And I should. Same goes for Craigslist. So much of what she says is true, though. There's definitely a stigma that they have to be playing with the "right things" or wearing the "cutest" stuff. I find myself by nature anti-licensed character clothing. (I think it's because I didn't have much as a kid and realized I didn't really like it; exceptions are the ONE Punky Brewster t-shirt and a TMNT shirt {Michelangelo FTW!} that I owned, and maybe a hand-me-down Betty Boop sleep shirt.) I also find myself turning away those gifts because I don't want those obnoxious cartoon faces to inundate our own animated munchkin's face, y'know?

That's a tug-of-war right there. If it's willingly given, do you just accept (I actually know for a fact that doing that tends to open Pandora's box, causing us to receive even MORE stuff) graciously (which, believe me, we ARE truly grateful!) or do we pick and choose what we allow through our doors to better control what he (and we) are subjected to? Like...he's never seen a full-length Disney movie. (He knows Mickey and the rest from short films and watching his playhouse at Grandma's.) So...should he have shirts and pj's with a million images of Lightning McQueen all over them? Then there's the slipppery slope that we simply MUST own that movie (and a million others). Again, I only owned a handful of Disney flicks, and they were ones we already knew that (as a family) we loved watching over and over again. Not 50. Not 20. A handful.

And I turned out just fine. ;-)

Obviously, my head's still wrapping itself around this concept. I highly doubt we could do a full-blown challenge (even a month's worth...? Maybe? Maybe not.) like this, but it definitely is good to help consider our needs vs. our wants vs. society's perceived "you need to want"s.

Whatchya think?

Organic For Less

Happy Monday from a very snowy CNY! I'm back from a "mid-winter break" and ready to get back to normalcy. Now, if I could only find the energy to match my enthusiasm. Eh, on with the show...

Every couple of weeks or so, I find myself hitting up our local Aldi (a unique grocery store with mostly generic-ish brands where you rent your grocery cart, bring your own bags, and may only use cash, or debit or EBT cards) before making my usual Hannaford haul. It helps to lower my regular food bill, and I'm ecstatic to see their choices in organic products is generally increasing. Woo hoo!

Now, before I share my budget-trimming selections, I'd like to briefly state our current eating philosophy. I wish I could say that we eat only fruits and vegetables; minimal quantities of organic, grass fed, humanely treated meat and poultry (and eggs); whole grains; and raw, grass fed milk and cheese. Period. But, we don't. A great majority of what we eat is organic OR grass fed OR GMO free OR 5-ingredients-or-less, but we still consume processed foods - frozen pizzas, part-skim cheese sticks, breads, snack crackers, granola bars, etc.  We try to eat minimal meat, but it's still a part of most of our meals (most dinners, at least).

It is what it is. Our consciences are relatively at ease on the subject. About 90-95% of the food in our house is organic or at least GMO-free. That's a heck of a lot further than we were a few short years ago. We don't stress out over the occasional ordered-in pizza or diner breakfast or meal shared at a friend or family member's house; they're quite rare and we know the rest of the time we're doing our best to put good things in our bodies. {And we're still profoundly against fast food (I'm going to attempt to pack some appealing meals for our next vacation so we don't fall victim).}

It's an evolution that I'm not rushing. To force a thing means that it will be a stress rather than a pleasure to enforce in our own lives. So, for now, I let someone else make my bread. (Either an organic brand or a few-ingredient, locally made one.) And I sleep just fine. ;-)

For some tips on grocery shopping for "whole foods", check out this old post. I'll have to do a farmers' market one when things warm up. Yay!

So, anyhoo! I ended up spending a lot for an Aldi trip (less than $60), but couldn't help myself. For once, I found so many new organic products, I felt like I was robbing the place. "Ohhhh, yessss!!" I shouted each time I spotted another. I'm sure folks thought I was crazy, but I know for a fact that crazier things DO happen...especially at this joint.

I'm showing my haul in categories - fruit 'n veg (one organic pile - left, one non-organic - right) and processed stuff (bottom).

I still subscribe to a small extent to the "clean 15" list to cut back on cost (although it's also a matter of supply/demand; if they supply an organic version, I'll often buy it). So, at Aldi I purchased a pineapple ($2.49), mushrooms ($.99!), a trio of onions ($2.69; I'm a tad wary here; the last time I did this, I cut into them THE NEXT DAY to find they had soft/browning middles...happened recently at Hannaford, too, though), garlic ($.79!), green onions ($.79!), asparagus ($2.99...and already gone...I should've bought two), and a bag o' potatoes ($2.99 for 5 lbs! But...on the dirty list, but it's tough to find organic here :-P).

As for the organic produce, I FINALLY caught their fresh bananas (I think $.79/lb.), bag o' apples ($4.49), spinach and spring mix ($1.99 each; if we don't use the spinach by the time it starts to go, I can boil it quickly and flash freeze) and baby carrots ($.99; this is the price if you're LUCKY for non-organic at Hannaford). Lots of "booyah!" and heel kicking in the aisles, I tell ya. Oh, and I grabbed two bags of frozen organic strawberries ($2.69 each) and one of blueberries ($2.99). If you want to count apple juice, I hunted down an organic container for $2.49 ($.50 - $1.00 less than usual).

Then we get into the more processed (yet organic) stuff. Diced tomatoes for $1.49, two boxes of $1.99 chicken soup, a box of $1.79 chicken broth, a box of $1.19 linguine, a $1.99 peppercorn ranch dressing, hormone- and antibiotic-free bacon (just like the kind we get at Hannaford, only $3.89...similar price, just want to check it out), $1.99 "toasted oats" (organic Cheerios, folks!), and TWO organic pizzas for $3.99 each (TWO DINNERS for $4.00 each! Yes, we'll probably have salad, too, but c'mon...can't buy a pizza from a local pizza place for that little, and they're made with ORGANIC ingredients!!!).

Whew. So, yeah, minus a $2 bag that I purchased because I ended up finding way more than I had expected, it came to around $57.63. For comparison, I usually spend around $30 there. If only they'd start carrying WHOLE organic milk instead of 2% (don't get me wrong -- I was ECSTATIC to see that they even had milk).

On a final note, this is just an example of a random grocery trip. I've had some interest from folks to know what one of these trips looks like, how much we spend on stuff, and what selections we make. This is by no means a bragfest (although I was dancing in the aisles to see what deals I could find); it's just putting myself out there to see if what I do might help any of you. :-)

So, how about you? What are some ways that you find to eat healthier (no judgment zone: healthier doesn't always mean organic; it's just our personal philosophy) for cheaper?

Another Boobie Update

I've talked about it time and time and time and time again (probably more times than that, but those are my main rants). But I realized a few days ago that we're nearing our end, so I'd better get my thoughts out (just in case anyone else is dealing with the ups and downs of breastfeeding and happen to be following my little journey).

When I say "nearing our end" on breastfeeding, that's actually an unknown...as with most things in life. He's just over 16 months old and still nurses (albeit for a shorter amount of time) early in the morning and just before bed. I pump once at work now -- sometimes I add it to his cow's milk to drink at the sitter's, and other times I test to see if he'll just eat the cow's milk. Unfortunately, he's become a sporadic milk drinker, so he doesn't always drink it very well. Other times, he downs it like a champ.

But, when I do pump, I'm to the point of getting -- get this -- only about an ounce to 1 1/2 ounces. ONCE a day.

Wow.

I'm reminded of a year ago when I used to get over 28 ounces a day, plus feeding throughout the night. Consider this cow one hay bale short of being put out to pasture.
 
Then there are those random times in the middle of a Saturday where he comes to me and gestures to his chest -- his little "sign" that he's hungry -- and we nurse for a minute or two. I don't know if he's REALLY hungry, or if he just wants some snuggle time (since he really doesn't snuggle unless you get silly and tickle him; he loves to laugh), but I'll take it. I'm sure I don't "give" him as much as he may want since demand begets supply, but he doesn't fuss, so it's all good.

I'm sure I'll do one final update when he finally kicks the habit, but for now, this is how life seems to be going. And, on a terribly personal side note, I think this up and down of breastfeeding is throwing my hormones (hence my "cycle") totally out of whack. So not cool. :-P

And now you can go about your day knowing a tad too much about me. You're welcome.